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For days, people constantly watched an image like this one – on their televisions, computers and iPhones. It seemed like the screen was being constantly refreshed with an updated image. Hurricane Ian was on the move.  As somewhat new residents to Florida, albeit each in different cities, my business partners and I readied for the…

Sometimes feedback can be misused. When it’s used to make the feedback giver feel right, it will not likely sit well with the receiver. “May I offer you some feedback?” Those words are harmony to some ears and discord to others. Even when you are open to it, their words can trigger—in a nanosecond—a reaction…

Recently working with a couple of my clients on the topic of conflict reminded me of the blog I wrote a couple of years ago. Thought I’d share again. I don’t like conflict may not be the words many people say aloud; however, they’re often the words that can drive a variety of behaviors: passive-aggressive…

Now more than ever, we are part of an increasingly larger network of people, which beckons for crystal clarity on the roles we play. Who is the star of the show at work or in life, the person taking on a heroic role? You may know someone playing this role, or maybe it is you.…

How we view a given situation is shaped by our relationship to it. “Where you stand depends on where you sit.” This phrase – sometimes called “Miles’s Law” – is attributed to Rufus Miles, a 20th century US government official. Our different experiences explain why different people take away vastly different messages from the exact,…

If you turn on television these days, invariably you will be hit with political advertisements. One party’s ad will state what the candidate stands for. Another party’s ad will attempt to denigrate that same candidate. As a consumer, without doing independent research and employing critical thinking skills, it’s difficult to know what to believe. Given…

A new client came to me with the goal of being promoted into a C-Suite executive position. People respected him but they couldn’t seem to relate or connect to him. I listened in on some calls where interaction with others was high. What I noticed could be a game-changer, with some coaching and practice.  When…

I don’t spend a lot of time on social media. Too often, it seems as if it’s used to validate our beliefs about current events instead of looking to solve problems which affect us. I prefer conversation. Invariably, I learn something new or see something differently. It may not change my beliefs, but it can…

The coaching engagement has finished, and the client says: “This isn’t what I expected … it’s made a huge difference in my life.”  When my clients realize that their greatest learnings – the biggest takeaways – from our time together have nothing to do with why we started coaching in the first place, I get…

What’s occupying my mind lately—racially motivated tragedies, war in the Ukraine, economic hardships (especially where I grew up in Sri Lanka)—also quells my optimism. Before my mind does its ‘auto-balancing act’ to replace bleak thoughts with comforting images (about all the things that are going right in the/my world), I want to explore this discord…