Measure Twice, Cut Once

Over the course of the last few weeks, we’ve shared our views on the key aspects of being intentional: Purpose … Presence … Perception – nailing this trifecta is a slam dunk that results in the desired impact. Right? Wrong. 

The key lies in the fourth “P” – Preparation.  

At LAITHOS, we help our clients gain deeper connections to what they want from their interactions – whether that be an important presentation, a difficult conversation, or even a phone call with someone new. 

Once the first three “Ps” are considered, it’s time to ask: “What do you need to be and do to show up in a way that supports your desire?” 

The doing part often comes to mind first. Here are some examples: 

• Prepare the expected deliverables ahead of time vs. just-in-time. Sure, there’s a lot to do, so it may be logical to do things based on due dates. Be purposeful in discerning the higher priorities so there is time to review the deliverable and adjust where needed. 
• Write down the key points and/or questions that are critical to share during the interaction. It’s easy to get waylaid if something unexpected happens. 
• Review your intentions around purpose, presence, and perception to get re-connected with the impact you want. 
• Make sure your calendar is free for at least 5-15 minutes before the interaction. This allows time to mentally clear whatever is needed to ensure you focus on the next interaction.  

The being part must also be an integral part of the preparation focus. Examples include: 

• Planning to listen intently and be curious about other viewpoints.  
• Deciding to be open to others’ feedback, even when it may not be positive. 
• Getting a good night’s sleep to be clear-headed. 
• Taking three slow, deep breaths immediately beforehand to increase calmness. 

Being purposeful is a practice of intentionality. It requires consistency. What might take 15-20 minutes early on to identify what is needed to prepare can develop into a quick five-minute exercise with practice. 

Just like anything that requires building muscles, the more frequently it’s done, the easier it becomes. And the better your impact for having done it. 

This Week: Pick one upcoming interaction. Consider all four Ps – purpose, presence, perception and preparation – in advance of that interaction as well as afterwards. If you need a refresher on the first three Ps, click on each hyperlink to read that blog. Invest in you and your desired impact.